Contractual Law 101
It's a triangle. Not a love triangle, thank goodness. I'm not ready for that. (Although my oldest did receive a Secret Admirer lolligram this Valentine's Day. What's up with that?) Nope, I'm talking about a Friendship Triangle. And it seems common with little girls. And these days my daughter is the one stuck in the middle, desperately wanting the others to get along.
It always involves my daughter and the same two girls. Friend A sometimes likes Friend B, and vice versa. But then one will get fed up with the other and try to talk my daughter into dropping the other as a friend. Fortunately my kid seems pretty good about announcing that she is friends with both girls, and she refuses to choose one over the other. The petty quarrels pass, and all three are soon happy as larks again. So it's a cycle of moments of bliss followed by moments of intense frustration.
One of my daughter's friends who usually watches from the sidelines got involved last week, and I wish I could've been there to watch how she handled it. She got fed up with the girls' antics, so she declared herself a lawyer. She wrote up a contract, and persuaded both Friend A and Friend B to sign it, agreeing to put their differences behind them and to treat each other better. And at least for the past few days, the document seems to have done its job. No new dramas for my daughter to report.
I really want to read that contract! And the girl who drafted it isn't even the daughter of an attorney, so I'm not sure where she came up with the idea! But in my mind, she totally rocks!
It always involves my daughter and the same two girls. Friend A sometimes likes Friend B, and vice versa. But then one will get fed up with the other and try to talk my daughter into dropping the other as a friend. Fortunately my kid seems pretty good about announcing that she is friends with both girls, and she refuses to choose one over the other. The petty quarrels pass, and all three are soon happy as larks again. So it's a cycle of moments of bliss followed by moments of intense frustration.
One of my daughter's friends who usually watches from the sidelines got involved last week, and I wish I could've been there to watch how she handled it. She got fed up with the girls' antics, so she declared herself a lawyer. She wrote up a contract, and persuaded both Friend A and Friend B to sign it, agreeing to put their differences behind them and to treat each other better. And at least for the past few days, the document seems to have done its job. No new dramas for my daughter to report.
I really want to read that contract! And the girl who drafted it isn't even the daughter of an attorney, so I'm not sure where she came up with the idea! But in my mind, she totally rocks!


Absolutely brilliant!!!!
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When I was quite young, I have very clear recollection of sitting on my Grandadddy's knee and him singing one of two songs. One was Froggie Went 'aCourtin" and the other title escapes me but the lyrics went something like:
Once there lived side by side, 2 little maids, dressed in white penefores, hair down in braids. One day a quarrel came, hot tears were shed. "You can't play in my yard" and the other said. "I don't want to play in your yard. I don't like you anymore. You can't holler down my rain barrel,you can't climb my apple tree. I don't wanna play in your yard, if you won't be good to me". I don't think I have ever heard that song in my adult lifetime anywhere but apparently it was well known in my grandfathers time as Melora found a cartoon of the "Family Circus" a few years ago with the first of the lyrics on it. There were other verses but that is the only one that has stuck with me.
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Hannah, I just heard that song in the movie "reds." It's very haunting. I found references to it online, including here; http://www.mudcat.org/thread.cfm?threadid=585
This is the relationship by agreement approach that conflict managers teach. Great to see them come up with it on their own.
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That girl has been watching her crime dramas and putting it into practice. Too funny!
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